Had a truly lovely day today. The sun shone and my super gorgeous family were on good form. How I love the Kavanagh family. X
My hansom ol beetle has done me proud. He’s driven from Cornwall to London without missing a heart beat.
Stan is a lovely 1972 1200 beetle, not the speediest of cars, but definitely very steadfast. And for his trustworthy and steadfast manor I decided to give him a wash and polish, and doesn’t he look good!
While thinking about the old saying “every cloud has a silver lining” I suddenly realised that if that was so then surely every silver lining must have a cloud.
What I mean by that is there must always be 2 sides, or 2 ways to interpret, or 2 ways to react to a situation. In reality it’s about how we work through what life throws at us as well as what we make of our lives. Infact there is a multitude of ways, not just 2.
Depending on our mindset at the time of the incident that happens, it will then be assessed with a different set of parameters than if the incident had happen the following day.
For example, are we hungry, are we tired, have we had a stressful day at work? All of these things have the ability to access our coping mechanisms, and if more than one thing is factored in then our reactions will be different again.
So every cloud having a silver lining must also mean that every silver lining has a cloud. It just depends on our approach to see things positive or negative at the time of the incident. There is always an alternative way of looking at things.
Looking at all things and finding the positive in them can be the difference between a fulfilling life, and a life filled with regret and a feeling of victimisation. All things that happen do so for a reason, it is not for us to necessarily understand why. This I guess is not always the easiest thing to do.
We can sit and ponder the meaning of life or if there’s a god, but at the end of the day what really matters is that we are one amongst billions, each being a cog in the cycle of life. We can choose to be a positive force in that cycle or a negative one.
It is us alone that has to live with the consequences of who we are. We may affect people around us and we may destroy what we do not know by ignorance, but we must still live with our actions.
So should we view the so called silver linings as such, or the outcome of things that we have not been comfortable with? I don’t know the answer, but I do know however bad things get there will always be a reason. I don’t profess to understand the reason, but I believe in cause and effect.
Today has felt like Chinese torture, the continuos gale force wind that has been blowing has not only been damaging to people’s property but also my mind.
Relentless would be an understatement. Rain, hail, thunder, lightening and furniture being hurled round the garden. Oh roll on the summer or at least a calm dry day.
My poor rabbits are not wanting to venture out and look miserable, they’re not the only ones.
The value of good friends is unmeasurable and without limits. These people choose to care and advise and love us for what we are. There are no ulterior motives and a genuine want for us to do well.
I truly am blessed with some of these people, and am lucky enough to have sisters who I also treasure as best friends. In life we can get bullied, and blackmailed and harassed in so many ways and with the way the world seems to be going these things appear to be coming more common place.
People seem to be losing sight of their humanity for each other in a need for what they feel is a necessity to survive. In reality to survive we need air we can breathe, food we can eat, shelter from the storm, and heat to keep us warm. We also need good friends, who when we have no food to eat, no shelter from the storm, and no heat to keep us warm will move over to make room for us to share theirs. Unfortunately if we have no air to breathe they most likely wont have any either.
In return for their friendship they get an unquestionable return, not out of duty, but out of friendship. We all need to remember these things are what makes the world go round not the things that are rammed down our throats by media and the person that will preach a self centred sermon. We all need good friends and we all need to be good friends.